Things that you want to do and not what people want you to do. Ofcourse, they have to be things that make you happy and are not self destructive.
But almost every person around the globe faces challanges doing the things we love. Whether it’s a hobby or simply obeying to one’s religion and beliefs.
And why is that?
It’s because of our deteriorated self confidence. We let ourselves become victims of inferiority complex on the tiniest things and mistakes.
Society will always pressure you into being this or that. We are brainwashed daily into believing it. Each one has his or her opinion. That’s okay. Deep down in your heart, you know who you are. Don’t let people pressure you into becoming something you are not.
-Mufti Ismail Menk
So go out there and rock yourselves out. You don’t have to be an eyecandy for others. You don’t have to be that ‘stereotyped examplery child’ for the society. You can only become examplery when you embrace yourself and work hard to making yourself a positive individual. You will find your amazing innerself. Afterall, every cloud has a silver linning.
It causes us to feel incompetent and awkward. Which makes us overthink our own abilities to be able to carry out a certain task. Which eventually leads to delaying our work and becoming lazy.
2. Lack of positive recognition by others.
Having a positive environment to do our work in causes increase in our efficiency. But if it’s the opposite it causes us to lose self confidence and doubting our abilities thus, we become lazy to carry out our tasks.
3. Lack of discipline.
It stems from low self confidence and the urge to throw our problems aside rather than tackling them. Waiting for the right time to do things.
4. Lack of interest in the activity or belief in it’s efficacy.
This makes us refuse to carry on with our work due to low enthusiasm. At first we might push ourselves to carry on but as time passes by we tend to spend less time on the things we used to be interested in. This could be due to stress, depression, anxiety or any other negative feelings.
5. Decreased level of motivation.
It stems from over-stimulation, excessive impulses or distractions. It can also be due to a person’s depleting mental health such as depression and anxiety. There are times when we work ourselves so much that we forget to take breaks and it ends up decreasing our motivation towards our work. So make sure to balance work and relaxation to avoid having dullness in our work lives.
It is the reason of people focusing on the pleasant after effects of the hard work we are supposed to do. We end up day dreaming about the rewarding results that our brains tend to avoid doing the task which ends up to seem dull compared to its awards.
The guilt that lingers on our minds after we break a certain rule or cause anything disappointing leads us to adapting lazy habits. That is why we should never give up. No matter how terrible we have been and things seem to be going downhill, we should stand up again. And if it means starting from the start then go ahead and begin again. Just like they say every day is a new beginning. So don’t let the guilt from getting up and giving another attempt at it.
8. Crippling barriers.
Certain boundaries that keep us from moving forward can lead to laziness. If possible expand your boundaries. There might be such boundaries that you can’t cross so it doesn’t mean we should stop. Rather find a way around it. An alternative that will respect your boundaries and also help to move on with our work.
9. Avoiding changes and pain.
Most of the time we are too immersed in our comfort zone that when faced with challanging changes we tend to stay and refuse to accept them. Changes might take time to happen. But they aren’t unavoidable. It’s in your hands to benefit from it or let it break you.
Fear that becomes overwhelming leads to laziness and we keep falling victim to it if we don’t confront them. E.g: fear of not being able to complete our tasks of the day which makes us overthink the negative outcomes. Leading to us turning to our guilty pleasures for a distraction and abandoning our tasks. You might have experienced this and would know very well that this becomes a non-stop circle of falling victim to your fears which ends up becoming a habit. So it’s best if we gain our courage and overcome our fears instead of letting them control us.
I hope this helps you figure out the root cause of your laziness and you will be able to overcome it soon.
Aesthetic means pleasant or an artful appearance of something. Finding your personal aesthetic is to look for a particular taste that is pleasing to your senses. So let’s figure out our personal aesthete in 3 easy steps.
1. Figure yourself out.
Find out/list out things you like and dislike, things you love about yourself and list out random things you like.
2. Find and gather inspiration.
You can do this easily on Pinterest and Tumblr. Make moodboards to stay organised so it’s easy to navigate through the different categories of your interest.
3. Keep up with the trends.
Last but not least, keep up with the world. Don’t stay under the rock. As time changes, so does the trends and our taste. We have to accept the changes and move on with time. If you choose to stay under the rock and not know what’s going on around you, you’ll lose your sense of aesthetic because looking at the same things over and over get boring as time goes by. Which means you’ll be lost and have to start all over again. Not to mention the hard work you will have to put to keep up with the world.
I hope this was helpful. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Xoxo
Let’s say things are not really going well and it’s starting to have an effect on our personality. We start to give off unpleasant vibes. So here’s how to fix it in 10 simple steps. Hope you find it helpful. ☺️
1. Go out in nature.
Set everything aside and go out. Relax in surroundings with more greenery. It will relax your brain. Or do gardening if you are a fan. It’s the best way to reconnect with nature. Go for a stroll at a park if your mood is off.
2. Exercise and meditate.
Exercise gets us moving. It can improve our muscle strength and can help deliver more oxygen to our brain. The relaxing effect from meditation helps improve heart rate, breathing, lowers blood pressure and much more. All of this can have a calming effect on our brain improving our mood.
3. Get advice from someone you trust.
If you are facing any problems do not go around telling different people about it. Some responses might have a negative effect on your mood causing you to be distressed. Get proper advice from trustworthy people who will want the best for you.
4. Practice gratitude.
Being thankful for the blessings we have makes us feel good. When expressing gratitude our brain releases dopamine and serotonin, neurotransmitters that are responsible for our emotions. They enhance our mood making us feel good.
5. Do someone a favour.
Doing good in general has a good effect on a person’s mood. It makes us want to do this more which makes us think positively about ourselves resulting in satisfaction and excitement.
6. Take a break from social media.
As we all know the social media has both good and bad things. Using social media more than average causes a drop in our good mood as we see both positive and negative things. All of that negativity gets to us when we are feeling down and it worsens a person’s mood. Eventually we start to practise the negative things and start to give off a negative vibe.
7. Tune out negative people.
Just as blocking negative people on social media we have to block out such people in our daily lives too. Only then can a person be happy and positive giving off a good vibe.
8. Try to accept your mistakes.
Being bold enough to accept our mistakes and apologising for it makes a person’s life easy and more positive. Thus causing us to stay in a positive environment, avoiding arguments and negativity which makes us feel good.
9. Avoid arguments.
Whenever there is conflict try your best to solve the problem in the calmest way possible. Try your best to avoid arguments as much as possible to preserve your peace of mind and not affect your vibe.
10. Do something that will give you an adrenaline rush.
Do activities like extreme sports if you can. Such things will give you an adrenaline rush which causes more blood flow to our brain. Resulting in enhancing our mood and having a positive effect on our body.
I hope this was helpful for you guys. Let me know in the comments if you liked it.
Swallowing one’s pride means to supress one’s ego in order to be humble. Sometimes it can be hard to do such so here are 3 simple ways to be more humble or swallow your pride.
It’s important to practise humility in daily life because it’s an act of humbleness without falling into the deep hole of self-deprication. Most importantly, it makes it easier to apologise and accept one’s mistakes.
2. Supplicate in time of need.
If you believe in God then, say your prayers regularly. Reach out to him with the belief that he will definitely reach back when you need hi. This way a person can remember that you are not perfect and that you do rely on someone. This is going to act as a reminder for us to not be arrogant.
3. Learn to let things go.
It’s best to be less stubborn when especially when things are messed up. It hwlps in accepting one’s faults easily. On the other hand, if it’s not your fault it makes it easier to move on and forgive someone for their mistakes.
That’s all from. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. If there is a particular topic you want to read then please let me know. have a nice day 🙂
As we all know it’s important to know ones creative spark or ignition of inspiration. But how do we find it? Learn it in 3 simple steps below.
1. Pay close attention to things that give you positive energy. Whenever you do something even if it is small but it gives you a feeling of satisfaction and joy, that is your speciality. It is what causes your soul to be on fire and brings out your personality.
2. Go for the things you want to do. Through these things you get to know yourself better. Which in return let’s you know your strengths and weaknesses and you get to find your spark. All of this will make you more confident about who you are as a person.
3. Figure out your weaknesses aka problems and get to know the reasons behind them. Once you do that you will be able to figure out the right solutions and again this will result in self-confidence. You would know how to control yourself. This will result in you figuring out your best traits and things that give you the spark.
I hope this was helpful enough. Let me know your thoughts on this topic in the comments.
Don’t lose hope. You’ve probably heard this a billion times. But I am going to repeat it again because hope is a desire for something to happen. Without desire what you have been trying to get is not going to happen.
Also failure is the key to success. So everytime you fail don’t lose hope. Tell yourself that you are one step closer to success. Failure strengthens a person. I can’t guarantee that you will achieve what you want the next time you try, but you are going to be better at it. So do not give up because nothing is impossible to be accomplished.
First of all what is emotional numbness? It is a weird feeling that you can’t put into words. You are unable to feel, think, react normally or relate to anything. Emotional numbness can hold you back from functioning as a happy, healthy human being. It can be an early symptom of depression or anxiety. So seek medical help as soon as possible.
There are 8 symptoms of feeling emotionally numb in the link below.
1. Losing interest in ur daily life. 2. Feeling guilty all the time. 3. Feel unmotivated and even your favourite activity can feel like a chore. 4. Its hard to feel pleasure. 5. Avoiding loved ones. 6. Feeling attacked or criticised all the time. 7. Being undecisive. 8. Food tastes like cardboard or generally doesn’t taste good.
When we put ourselves out of our comfort zone and open to experiencing different things we are exposed to new things and feelings that we have never felt before.
It adds up to our general knowledge and we get to know ourselves better as well as the world. We learn to approach things and problems from different perspectives. This helps instil patience in oneself. We shouldn’t let fear of gaining bad experiences get in our way because each experience, wether good or bad is a lesson learned which helps broaden our horizons.
Risk-taking is the act of expanding your limits and abilities by being open to uncertanities in life and making necessary changes. When we take risks, we accept and open up to certain challanges in life which may or may not have pleasant results. We can face failure, embarassment, criticism, rejection and so on. On the otherhand, we can also achieve goals and tremendous success in life which we can only achieve by taking positive risks in life.
Here are a few obstacles that prevents a person from taking risks in life.
1. Lack of belief in a positive result.
Having no confidence in yourself or the work that you put in can more likely cause you to fail than the actual chances of failure. Do your best, put in as much effort as you can. Push yourself to the edge and then leave the rest to God. Your effort does not go to waste. It always comes around.
Fear of failure, embarassment, rejection etc can hold you back from taking risks in way you wont even realise. So stop being too afraid of the negative outcome and actually focus on taking the risk and making it a success.
3. Groundless emotional needs.
Need of approval or certainity or security so you don’t fall victim to guilt or loss are things that might seem scary and rational but are unnecessary and a mere hindrance for you to take risks and achieve success. You have to do positive reasoning with yourself and remind yourself of how important it is for you to take a certain risk and take full responsibility for the failure of it. Accept the fact that failure is a part of life and without failure there is no success.
This is a topic that is very thoroughly discussed in my household and my parents always reminds us of these values when we are at our lowest. So the other day I wasn’t feeling very well and my mom sent me a viral message on whatsapp about “happiness classes” conducted at Harvard. Here goes some of the tips the message contains.
🚩Tip 1. Thank God for everything you have: Write down 10 things you have in your life that give you happiness. Focus on the good things!
🚩Tip 2. Practice physical activity: Experts say exercising helps improve mood. 30 minutes of exercise is the best antidote against sadness and stress.
🚩Tip 3. Breakfast: Some people miss breakfast for lack of time or not to get fat. Studies show that breakfast gives you energy, helps you think and perform your activities successfully.
🚩Tip 4. Assertive: Ask what you want and say what you think. Being assertive helps improve your self-esteem. Being left and remaining silent creates sadness and hopelessness.
🚩Tip 5. Spend your money on experiences: A study found that 75% of people felt happier when they invested their money in travel, courses and classes; While only the rest said they felt happier when buying things.
🚩Tip 6. Face your challenges: Studies show that the more you postpone something, the more anxiety and tension you generate. Write short weekly lists of tasks and complete them.
🚩Tip 7. Put everywhere nice memories, phrases and photos of your loved ones: Fill your fridge, your computer, your desk, your room, YOUR LIFE of beautiful memories.
🚩Tip 8. Always greet and be nice to other people: More than 100 inquiries state that just smiling changes the mood.
🚩Tip 9. Wear comfortable shoes: If your feet hurt you, you become moody, says Dr. Keinth Wapner, President of the American Orthopedics Association.
🚩Tip 10. Take care of your posture: Walk straight with your shoulders slightly backwards and the front view helps to maintain a good mood.
🚩Tip 11. Listen to music (Praise God): It is proven that listening to music awakens you to sing, this will make your life happy.
🚩Tip 12. What you eat has an impact on your mood:- Do not skip meals, eat lightly every 3 to 4 hours and keep glucose levels stable.- Avoid excess white flour and sugar.- Eat everything! Healthy- Vary your food.
🚩Tip 13. Take care of yourself and feel attractive:70% of people say they feel happier when they think they look good.
🚩Tip 14. Fervently believe in God: With him nothing is impossible!
🚩 Tip 15 Develop a good sense of humour. Learn to laugh off matters, specially when things don’t go right for you.
Happiness is like a remote control, we lose it every time, we go crazy looking for it and many times without knowing it, we are sitting on top of it …
Have an unconditionally happy life ! God bless you!